IMPORTANCE OF POSITIVE FEEDBACK FOR YOUR CHILD

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IMPORTANCE OF POSITIVE FEEDBACK FOR OUR CHILDREN  

CHILD – " Mom I got a 7/10 in my exam"
MOTHER- " But I made you study so much,  so why only 7/10,  you could have scored a 10/10 easily, you keep making silly mistakes"

OR

WHEN YOUR CHILD COMES HOME AND HIS CLASSWORK IS INCOMPLETE-

MOTHER- Why is your book incomplete all the time.  Look at Shreyas,  he always writes so well and completes all his notes.  

ISN'T THIS SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS TO US DAILY? AREN'T WE CONDITIONED TO CRITICIZE OR COMPARE THINKING THAT WOULD HELP OUR CHILD LEARN ?

IS IT TIME FOR A CHANGE?

A CHILD’S SELF IMAGE BUILDS UP OVER TIME WITH POSITIVE LOVING MESSAGES FROM YOU AND OTHER IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE. A HEALTHY SELF IMAGE IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT TO BUILD UP THE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHILD.

SO HOW DO YOU THINK WE CAN GIVE THIS POSITIVE MESSAGES TO OUR CHILD-

LETS RE-FRAME –

CHILD- “ Mom I got a 7/10 in my exams"
MOTHER - "Oh,  that's great,  I am so proud of you.  But you know what, next time we'll work a little more hard,  and you can score even better,  don't you think.  But you have been doing great.  Keep up the hard work"


OR WHEN HIS CLASSWORK IS INCOMPLETE-

“ Hey this is nice,  you have been getting better at writing,  you have completed most of it. Now next time why don't you try a little hard and write slightly faster,  so you can definitely complete everything and then we don't have to finish that at home" 


ISN'T IT AS SIMPLE AS THIS, SO HERE WE ARE NOT ONLY GIVING OUR CHILD A POSITIVE FEEDBACK BUT ALSO A CONSTRUCTIVE ONE WHICH WILL DEFINITELY HELP THEM GROW.


TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR BOND WITH YOUR CHILD-

1.       STOP WHAT YOUR DOING AND LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD WHEN HE WANTS TO TALK , GET INVOLVED IN THE CONVERSATION AND LET THEM FEEL YOUR INTERESTED.

2.       MAKE TIME TO DO YOUR CHILD’S FAVORITE ACTIVITIES WITH THEM .

3.       GIVE THEM POSITIVE FEED BACKS WHENEVER POSSIBLE AND REFRAIN FROM DIRECTLY CRITICIZING.

4.       BEFORE YOU ALWAYS CORRECT YOUR CHILD- ASK YOURSELF- DOES IT REALLY MATTER? OR CAN I JUST LET IT GO?

IF YOUR ALWAYS CORRECTING, THIS SENDS A MESSAGE THAT YOUR CHILD ISN'T CAPABLE OR VALUED. 

ALSO AN IMP TIP- IT IS NOT REALISTIC OR NORMAL TO BE POSITIVE ALL THE TIME, AND YOUR CHILD WILL COPE JUST FINE IF YOUR OCCASIONALLY INSENSITIVE, UNAVAILABLE OR DISTRACTED. IF YOUR CHILD GETS POSITIVE ATTENTION MOST OF THE TIME, HE WILL FEEL LOVED AND VALUED.

 ALSO TO ALL THE MOTHERS- DON’T BE TOO HARSH ON YOURSELF- YOUR CHILDREN ARE DOING GREAT👍

STAY HAPPY AND STAY BLESSED-

 REGARDS,
DR ZAINAB KHAMBATY (TAJIR)

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